Got an Eating Disorder? Procrastinate No More!

image of a shopping list as an example for those with an eating disorder.

What are you waiting for?

Isn’t it true that unless something fun and exciting is about to happen, it takes a little more to get us moving. When something seems more fearful and arouses other like emotions, we take a different approach. We take our time, find other things that are seemingly more important, and just procrastinate.

Think about all of the things you have procrastinated on in your life. I’m just as guilty of this. Procrastination could be my middle name. It could be something as small as going to the grocery store – after all, you can always go out to eat or order in, or something as big as not finishing up on a project by my deadline.

But, I want to talk about what it is you are waiting for when it comes to ending binge eating disorder now.

  • Does it just seem too hard?
  • Do you feel too overwhelmed and don’t even know where to start?
  • Do you feel like you don’t have what it takes to be successful at overcoming it?
  • Are you scared?
  • Do you wonder what your life will be like when you don’t binge?
  • What will you do instead?

Of course these are all very valid concerns. I asked myself all of these questions when I decided to stop binge eating too. In fact, I was at the point where I wished that I hadn’t told Rob anything so that I could just go and binge. (And not to mention, the laundry was looking way more important at that moment than the big task of learning to stop bingeing.)

Procrastination on some things is fine. When it comes to other, more important things, like binge eating, it’s not so fine. It’s your health we are talking about. It’s being able to play with your children. It’s giving yourself completely to your husband or wife because you feel good enough inside. It’s loving yourself. It’s being able to travel. It’s going to dinner with friends. It’s SO much more than an eating disorder… and it’s taking away your whole life.

Here’s a little exercise I want you to do…

Make a list of everything you want to do or wish you would do but don’t because of this eating disorder. Write down the small things that really don’t matter, and be sure to capture the bigger ones that do. You know, the ones that are making you sit back and not have control over your own life.

When you are done, take a long, hard look at your list and see how your life is 100% affected by your eating disorder.

Now, make another list.

On this list, let’s pretend that you don’t have binge eating disorder. Let’s say that you have a week off from work and you can do whatever it is that you want. You don’t have to worry about making sure your kids did their homework. You don’t have to worry about paying bills. You don’t even have to worry about having dinner on the table. Your biggest “worry” is how you will spend the next 7-days.

What will you do? How will you spend these days?

Now, for the biggest question there is… Why are you letting binge eating disorder hold you back?

I understand that there are many factors that can get in our way and cause stress and frustration. I get that it’s not as easy as being on a vacation for a week… but, don’t you think that you should allow yourself the freedom to do the activities you want to do? Don’t you think it’s time to stop letting binge eating disorder control you? Don’t you want to enjoy life?

When you come to realize and accept that binge eating disorder is not going to control you anymore, you will start branching out more. You will find yourself saying “yes” to invitations. When you start to do new things, you will develop a new confidence. You will start pushing binge eating disorder to the back of your mind, instead of always being at the forefront. You will realize that you have the courage to stop this ongoing and exhausting battle with your eating disorder.

It’s all up to you.

What are you going to decide to do with your life?

I believe in you!


P.S. - Please don’t procrastinate on doing this exercise. It won’t take long and you owe it to yourself. It will build your awareness, provide you with a new commitment to yourself, and help you on your journey.

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  1. Karen Bargell
    3 years ago

    I hate to go places or see people because I don’t want them to see how fat i am. My eating habits have led to this situation.

  2. Jen
    3 years ago

    It’s so agnonizing because this I realize and it makes me all the more sadder and angry with myself. So, so angry for missing out on so much life – all of my 20’s – missing friends, relationships, dating, concerts, vacations…living. All so I could stay in, binge, eat junk and wake up hung-over and swearing not to do it again…until a few hours later when the loneliness and terror set in.

    I sound crazy. And the crazy thing is…that I’m not. I mean, I’m a professional working woman and yet I’m so screwed up with all this.

    What I’m terrified of is being too late. Too damn late. People talk about binging twice a week or over-eating but still on healthy foods. Not me. For one full year straight, it’s been nightly binges to the point of sickness on all junk. Bags of cookies and bags of chocolates. I’m so, so ashamed of myself. Thousands of dollars thrown away, sore teeth…broken heart…and yet, I can’t stop it. Even tonight, tonight, I almost thought I couldn’t – like I couldn’t – it’s too much – there’s no going back…and then I gave in. 2 boxes of cookies later…I’m so ashamed and disgusted with myself. Will I ever be “clean” again? Will I ever reclaim my body? It must be too late…I need a year just to detox. And, still I can’t stop.

  3. Sara
    3 years ago

    Thanks so much for this. I really enjoy the writing prompts – it is a great way to “interact” with you and to do something with all this information. Please include writing prompts more often!

  4. Kristin Gerstley
    3 years ago

    Sara – Glad you like these posts :) I would love to write daily, but every time I think I have some time to catch up, well, I don’t. My 2-year old needs something. It’s hard, but I will do my best to update as often as I can :) Please keep checking back!

    Karen – I know how tough it is :( I remember hating to go out in public because of how I looked. The thing with binge eating disorder is that it can show on the outside (your body), so it’s extra humiliating. I’m so sorry that you are going through this.

    Jen – You most definitely do not sound crazy. At all. You sound like me years ago. There are so many people out there that feel like you do, despite their professional achievements. BED is one thing that a lot of people just can’t wrap their mind around. It’s an awful, awful thing.

    Please know that it is never too late to take charge of your life and start living. No matter how old you are, it’s never too late.

    As far as bingeing, I never really binged on healthy foods. My favorites were junk food for sure. I never had like 12 apples and 2 peaches. That never did it for me. Where are you in your journey to getting back on track? Do you journal? Have you tried making little changes in your life? Have you focused on positive self-talk to yourself, instead of negative? Please let me know – I would really love to help you.

    Best to all of you!!

  5. Lauren
    3 years ago

    What do you do when you realize that all of said “opportunities” that BED sufferers miss out on are impossible anyway due to nobody to share them with? I’m seventeen years old and have suffered from binge eating disorder for two years. Beforehand, I dieted and exercised excessively for a year and weighed 100lbs (5’2). My freshman year, everybody loved me, and they came to me with problems about their bodies all the time. I motivated them to keep pushing and never give up. They trusted me, and I blew it. Flash forward two years, and I’m now (5’3), 160lbs. Those same people are still my so-called friends, but I feel ashamed that I let them down. I’ve never told anyone about my disorder, so I have no idea what they think. I used to be the smallest girl on the dance team; now, I outweigh everyone by a good 40lbs. My mom says she used to have this disease, but if she did, why does she put ME down ALL THE TIME?!?! She expects me to diet and exercise excessively like before, but that doesn’t just “cure” me! I heard her and my father talking downstairs; they’re planning on hiding the junk food so I just CAN’T binge! I’m so embarrassed and ashamed. I feel like things were really looking up until now. Who do I turn to when nobody’s left to love me? Plus, even when I conquer this thing (because I WILL succeed!!), how do I forgive my parents for their former hatred? I feel like they’ll only love me if I’m skinny, which is so wrong on so many levels. I make excellent grades, in the band, on the dance team, treasurer of NHS, on student council, and on yepo. Plus, I have a job interview on Wednesday. Parents say I’m a wonderful, trustworthy girl all the time. So why is it that my own parents cant say it, too? They’ve never once tried to understand my problem. They just blame me for eating all the food and for being fat. I have no one to confide in nor trust. Any words of wisdom would be severely appreciated.

  6. Austin
    3 years ago

    Eating is why I run in the first place. I ate a bag of of Reese’s Peanut Butter pumpkins the other day and tmoorrow I’m going to take advantage of Endless Shrimp at Red Lobster. I’ve always thought about cutting out the binging while training, just to see what I could be capable of, but I love eating junk too much. Oh well.

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